TT all the way, I live in the real world, I'll drive the [censored] out of it everyday. 15-20k milage per year, wife and kids occasionally in the car.Throw in some track time too.
As far as the wife goes, while it's better to ask for forgiveness than permission, I have no problem discussing a large purchase with my wife, it's called being married.
Re the rear seats in a GT3, my ins co, USAA in NY had a big problem with it in a 996GT3, that's why I passed on one. I doubt the 997GT3 is any different, the car is imported as a 2 seater, there lies the problem and potential liability.
The rear spoiler is a little boyracer for me too.