Regarding deviated stitching: There are seven option codes to know:
24891: seats
24901: dashboard upper half
24902: door upper half (the black part in bicolor interiors)
24903: door handle
24904: center console (PCM sides and section between front seats.
SHIFTER, SHIFTER BOOT AND HANDBRAKE ARE NOT INCLUDED)
24905: rear side panel
and the most important, 09991: all
EXCLUSIVE options.
Everything is covered, BUT the shifter, the shifter boot and the handbrake. The shifter boot especially is the tricky bit.
If you want a manual car, you HAVE to order the DAD alu/leather shifter & handbrake option. In a Tiptronic car, you HAVE to order the handbrake, which is available separately as CFP.
If you want CF or wood trim, you must order it through Tequipment (dealer-fit). The regular 801/802/803 options include the dashboard trim, and the handbrake and gear shifter or Tiptronic selector. Unfortunately, the latter three are not covered by any deviated stitching option, and are incompatible with DAD and CFP, which is necessary to get deviated stitching on the shifter boot (you'd think Exclusive would trump all, but no, it'd be too obvious!

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The best solution is to let your dealer handle it (the Tequipment packages only include the dashboard trim).
If you want a shifter boot with deviated stitching but also with carbon or wood inserts on the shifter, you need to order the appropriate steering wheel + shifter + handbrake option from Tequipment (not available separately, gotta order them all), and ask your dealer not to fit the parts you don't want.
Caution: Make sure those parts are compatible beforehand, I have not tried it myself!
Regarding red calipers (you're right, it's only calipers): they are also recommanded with paint-to-sample yellow exteriors (e.g. Signal Yellow) if you've got PCCB.